Muhibbah?
I'm aware I'm going to be opening a huge can of worms with this post, but what the heck, to quote YP: "These are just my thoughts and are not meant to hurt anyone." (Or something to that effect)
Yesterday, most people were in a flurry over living arrangements for KKB - hostel or house; if house, which house; how many people in a house; and of course, who to stay with in the house.
I was pretty sleepy yesterday - more so than usual - when R asked me if I wanted to stay in a house together with her. I wasn't too keen on the idea, because I thought having to take the bus from the house was less convenient than walking from the hostel. After some discussion, I figured I'd stick with the hostel. I went back to my seat, then the next thing I know, T comes up to me and says, "Sheena, you're the house leader. Make sure you..." I was like, "Hang on a sec: Wha? House leader? What house?" I was then informed that I'd been signed up - without my knowledge - to stay in a house together with 5 other Chinese girls. Ok, cool, looks like my living arrangements had been taken care of, which in my book is a good thing, 'cos I'm surprisingly blur when it comes to settling practical things like these.
Anyway, R comes back, and I tell her, "Guess what? Apparently I've been signed up to stay in a house." She asked if she could stay with us, but our house was full already. But E hadn't found a house yet, so R & E decided to go house-hunting together. (To quote Timothy Song, "Are you all confused yet with all these short forms? If you are, good.") The 2 of them go off for a bit, then R comes back again to me and says,
"We found 2 other girls to stay with, but they're both Malays."
I couldn't help but think, "So, the problem is... ?"
But the clincher came when R went back to finalise arrangements with them, and she told me the result of which:
"All 6 Malay girls want to stay together in 1 house."
Which leaves R & E to either a) Conquer a house all by themselves, or b) Stay in a hostel.
I was talking about this incident with a guy friend, and he mentioned that a feller in his group, R2, had ticked off the names of all the Chinese guys whom he wanted to stay with. Having ticked off the names, R2 remarked, "Aiyah, the Malays don't need to care onelah." (I found this quite surprising 'cos girls are notorious for being HEAPS more clique-ish compared to their male counterparts.)
Point of this entire post is, how many living arrangements have been drawn along racial lines? I agree that it may seem contrived to force a racial quota when it comes to living arrangements, but having lived in a hostel during my Pre-U days which employed that policy, I have seen that such a quota
does work, and
is effective in creating more inter-racial friendships. I became such close friends with my housemates that
race was honestly a non-issue, and I believe this is true of the others who stayed in that hostel.
I could fault people's preconceived notions of each other: One side says, "They hardly take part in anything." And the other side says, "They're not friendly."
Or I could blame the environment in which we study. IMU is after all, a private, profit-oriented university, with exorbitant fees which subtly excludes certain strata of society, ie. those who are not as well-off as some, and targets certain races for intake. I suppose such an environment is also not conducive to free-mixing among the races, compared to public universities.
Nevertheless, why are we so reluctant to break out of a our comfort zones? We're all different, and we each have something rich to offer one another... if we would choose to overlook trivial things such as race and just, damnit, GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER.